quote:Originally posted by TheWatchman:
I said "mostly all". "My generation of women, and probably more so your generation, are mostly all about money and greed. The majority of women are snakes in the grass looking for their next victim."
Yes there are women who are self-sufficient but that is when greed comes into play. They always want more and will steal and lie to get it. In this day and age, you must look out for yourself. It's sad, but true. There are good women out there, but they are few and far between.
Today, 3 out of 4 marriages end in divorce. In the previous generation, 50% of all marriages ended in divorce. It's not getting any better, according to the latest statistics.
It is a sad trend. But I think that perhaps ONE of the reasons that it is rising is because of what Cathy mentions. SOME women who are in unhappy marriages have the wherewithall to support themselves through their own hard work and success in the business world and don't need a man's paycheck, so can afford to be divorced. I am sure that we can all think of marriages of our parents' and grandparents' generation where there should have been a divorce, but the woman could not support herself with the measily alimony and child support they were handing out back then because most of them were at-home mom's with no marketable skills.
Then there is the stigma of divorce from that era that stopped alot of them. There were also men that stayed in a bad marriage, because they were brought up to be good husbands and fathers at all costs.
While I am glad that personal happiness has taken on a higher priority in this day and age...I do believe that the pendulum is swinging too much the other way and SOME people, men and women alike, are not taking their family responsibilites seriously enough.
I don't think that the MAJORITY of women are snakes in the grass and that good women are far and few between...it's just that most of the good ones are already married to good men that were lucky enough to find each other and were able to muddle through the tough times.
And SOME men are just as guilty of such selfishness. There are alot of them that I know that think of women as just cooks/housekeepers/babysitters/concubines and not real people, just like SOME women who think of men as only bank accounts.
And finally but most importantly, yes Douglas, find yourself another gal who will appreciate you for you and not how she can manipulate you for her entertainment. This current girl is a player and right now she is playing you. The next victim will be this current boyfriend when someone else catches her fancy. But she will always have you on the line as long as you let her. Don't. Walk away from the whole thing like everyone has been advising you to because we care about you. Yes, it will hurt like h*ll, but there will be an end to the hurt once you stop caring about her.
And just think about this? If she were to come back to you...would you ever trust her again? And if there's no trust in a relationship...then why bother?
I wish you all the best. Keep us posted.
Diane
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