I met a gentleman in a chat room the other night. He didn't use a single come on lines, no personal questions like how old are you and what's your bra size, nor inane questions like "How's the weather there?" We wound up talking for hours.
What attracted me? He responded to a comment I made with a question. We had an actual conversation. That rarely happens in chat rooms for me with total strangers.
That's also the quickest way to strike up a conversation in real life. Be interested in the person in front of you.
I've been through a half dozen sales training courses and the one "revolutionary" thing they all want to teach you is to figure out how what you're selling can help the buyer solve their problems. Don't concentrate on how great the product is, but set out to understand what the buyer needs, what their concerns are, what they're going through. Same thing applies to meeting women I think. We don't care how great, good looking or wealth you are if you can't hold a decent conversation or if you're an arogant jerk.
Well, okay, there are SOME women who care what kind of car you drive and how much money you have, but those aren't women you want to know.
quote:Originally posted by Borderstone:
I ask this Ladies because I'm trying to find a way to change myself a bit so that maybe I can be more of what women are looking for. I'm not sure what else that might be. I think of myself as intelligent,humorous or witty,a gentleman and devoted (when it's right) and I guess fun,unless that falls under humorous. So ladies I ask you,"Help! I need somebody! Help!" I'd truly appreciate your advice! 
Bye now! 
[This message has been edited by violet Blue Horse (edited August 18, 2003).]